But if you’re going to keep it brief, you should choose your words wisely.According to research at Queen Mary University of London, to get the most responses, you should use 70% of the space to write about yourself, and devote 30% to what you’re looking for in a partner. Keep your tone light According to Queen Mary University, a playful username, and not taking yourself too seriously in your profile, will make you 50% more likely to be contacted than people trying to appear sexy, wealthy or intellectual.When it comes to online dating, we all know (or we should do by now) that we get out what we put in.With one in three marriages starting online, it’s obviously working well for many of us. ———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.
I’m frequently asked by daters for tips on how to make it a more efficient and rewarding experience, and how to avoid some of the problems that go along with the process.
Yours, Evan Every line of this message can be thrown out. Because anyone whom you contact knows by virtue of you writing to them that a) you liked their profile, b) you liked their photo and c) you’d like a reply. That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. In this case, I’ve written them for men replying to women, but the steps are applicable to everyone: Every word of it.
Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.
If you can slip in a joke or two, that will also help – 56% of online daters find humour the most attractive trait.
However, you need to actually demonstrate your wit, not just tell people you’re funny! Always proofread According to research by Zoosk, 72% of daters say bad spelling and grammar significantly reduce the chances of them continuing a conversation, even listing it as a ‘deal breaker’.